
How I Met Your Mother - Season 4 - "Do I Know You?" - Sarah Chalke as Stella and Josh Radnor as Ted courtesy Eric McCandless/Fox
Last night on the Season 4 premiere of How I Met Your Mother, we find out that a recently engaged Ted spent the entire summer mooning over his fiancé only to discover that he really doesn't know anything about Stella.
He doesn't know the color of her eyes, the foods she is allergic to, her favorite color and most importantly what she thinks of his favorite movie.
In Ted's quest to determine if Stella really is the woman he can spend the rest of his life with, he stages a movie watching session to determine how she reacts to Star Wars, his all time favorite movie.
Hilarity ensues as he watches her watch the movie. In the end, Stella hates the movie, but tells Ted she loves it and in an ahhhhh moment confesses to Marshall that she's comfortable with pretending to like Star Wars for the rest of her life if it means she can be with Ted.
But the scene immediately generated a conversation in our household. What movie is so important to you that your significant other must like it if you two are to spend the rest of your lives together?
My husband immediately agreed with the Star Wars choice and added his favorite John Wayne movie, The Searchers - both of which, fortunately, I happen to like.
Then after a moment, he decides that it really is a wonder that he married me because his deal breaker movie is The Christmas Story.
I quickly explain - you know my marriage is on the line here - that I do like that movie. I just don't feel the need to watch it for 24 hours straight.
My deal breaker is a little harder to define. I know right off that any chick flick is out when talking to a guy. If I go with my sick day movie, the movie I fall back on when I need cheering up or time to zone out, then I'd have to say The Lost Boys.
My husband will never watch the movie as often as I do. And I can't call it his favorite, but at least he didn't boo at it.
I guess the morale of the story is that you don't have to share the same favorite movies, but you do have to at least be able tolerate each other's favorites.
Seriously, if you can't at least *tolerate* (preferably at least *like*) Princess Bride, then I have no use for you. ;-)
You picked the Lost Boys as your deal breaker? That is awesome!
"They're all gonna LAUGH at you. They're all gonna LAUGH at you."
One of the immortal lines from Carrie listed in #6 below.
The Princess Bride, absolutely. Star Wars, absolutely. The 40-Year-Old Virgin, absolutely. Ferris Bueller's Day Off, absolutely. and... this is my big one... Harry Potter (at least the first one). I know it seems weird, but I'm weird.
My ex's deal breaker film was probably Dirty Work - which is maybe why he's my ex...
The exorcist, the original with Linda Blair. I've never seen ' The lost boys' but I have the follow up of that on my netflix queue...........Pfffff, I just could close my laptop before my wife walked in....:)
Is she not an Exorcist fan? Or is she just tired of being a Newsvine widow?
She thought the Exorcist was very scary and therefore an excellent horror movie.....Oh my, I just gave the answer to your question......:)
That sounds way better Vacelts..........
Please understand this is coming from someone who is older than dirt.
Casablanca, of course. And you have to be prepared to watch Psycho from the opening, shredding chords of the strings to the towing out of the car, whenever it's on TV or when I feel like dragging out the DVD. My partner expects the same from me when he feels like watching Carrie. I have no problem with that. There's a movie a lot of you probably don't know because it's in the gay movie genre (not porn...we really do have our own not-necessarily-naked movies), Big Eden, that I consider one of the best movies ever made, gay genre or not.
He tolerates Singin' in the Rain. I tolerate any movie starring his beloved Godzilla. But it works. We just celebrated our 30th anniversary.
Raiders of the Lost Ark
Star Wars
Office Space
The Princess Bride
Those four would be deal breakers. Of course Mrs. Malheim introduced me to Office Space so I am pretty lucky. :-)
Ooo... good list, although I'll have to agree with vacelts about Last Crusade.
I would have included all of the Indy movies (and Star Wars too, despite the current opinion of the prequels) , but I was trying to be specific. I would have a hard time picking out which one was my actual favorite. Although I know how much she loves Sean Connery. :-)
Does that make that movie a deal maker?
It certainly didn't hurt anything!
Me my deal dreaker is basicially any chick flick.
The movies I do like are the orginial Star Wars trilogy, Patton, Transformers(both the 2007 live action movie and the 1986 animated one), Friday, Full Metal Jacket, Borat and, of course, Scarface.
Basicially, that I would rather not watch one...
Thankfully, we love most of the same movies: Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, All the Indiana Jones movies but Raiders the most, Somewhere in Time (yep, he loves a romance movie), Alien, Aliens, Phantom of the Opera, This is Spinal Tap, Ferris Beuller's Day Off, A Christmas Carol, the Sixth Sense, Signs... (we love a lot of movies)
However, he has a strong love of the rock opera "Tommy" by The Who. After he went on and on about how great the movie is, I watched it with him. I hated it (and still do). That was almost a deal-breaker, but not enough to do any real damage. :) I think he just really wanted me to love it.
But I sat through it with him at least once and I think that's what matters most -- I gave it a try.
lol - that's true love, isn't it. To be willing to sit through it at least once. :)
One weekend, I actually sat through Alien vs. Predator with him, and I actually enjoyed some of it. It's the effort that counts, right?
it really is the effort that makes a relationship work.
Amen, sister! :)
Star Wars(and I mean all 6) is a big one for me.
But Casablanca is my deal breaker. My fiance better hurry up and watch it because we get married in 3 months. He has fallen asleep 2 times during it which breaks me heart, but this is a guy that loves Top Gun(*pukes*)
Star Wars(and I mean all 6) is a big one for me.
There are only like six people on the planet who like the prequels, so you're lucky you found one of them ;-)
I love me some all six star wars movies! ...there are 5 more of us?
I also love me all the matrix movies. Neither set is a deal breaker, though.
Deal breaker is Casablanca. Hands down.
@Myk -
I've never seen Casablanca... does that mean I'll never have a chance with you? Hehe.
Dev,
No, you've still got a chance. As long as you love it when you do see it. ^^
I'd have to say Judd Apatow movies. I can deal with someone who doesn't like my favorite older movies, because while they are my favorites, I'm ok with and actual prefer watching them alone. However, since Judd Apatow is still busy making many more movies, I need a date to go see them with ;-)
Good call. I'll see your Judd Apatow movies, and raise you Judd Apatow TV shows. If she doesn't like Freaks and Geeks, well...
vacelts, lets say Superbad, though I also really liked Forgetting Sarah Marshall. Superbad reminds me a lot of Dazed and Confused which is one of those movies that you kinda don't notice at first, but it's insanely re-watchable and gets better with every single viewing. Add to that the craziest cops since Super Troopers and McLovin, who is in a league all his own.
gecko85, I felt that was obvious enough to be left unsaid ;-)
However, any girl who favors Undeclared over Freaks and Geeks gets bonus points. Seriously, as good as Freaks and Geeks was, Television has been there and done that. There are tons of high school dramas, and yea Freaks and Geeks is far better than most of them, there are still shows like My So Called Life that are just as good. However, television shows based in college are a rare breed. I think it's harder to write about college because there aren't the easy stereotypes that there are in high school, the high school cliques of Jocks, Geeks, the Cool Kids, and Freaks fade away in college as the students grow up and expand their horizons and become more well rounded individuals. That's harder to write about.
I also felt that Undeclared was more realistic, or at least I could relate to it better. From the getting a crush on a girl the first night, to being stuck in a quad dorm room with three other random guys, to even meeting random celebrities like Adam Sandler when they performed at my college (I was kinda like Perry and member of our Student Activities board, I once ate dinner with Mr. Belding ;-). Anyway, Undeclared was amazing, and I'm kinda sad it doesn't have the cult following that Freaks and Geeks does.
Undeclared was great. For me, though, who was in Jr. High at the time Freaks and Geeks was set, I can say with some authority that they nailed it. You can tell there's a lot of personal memory from Judd in there. It was scary how real that show was. It was like they were harvesting my own memories.
Undeclared premiered when I was a freshman in college if I remember correctly so I have a soft spot for it.
I have an emotional connection to Wizard of Oz, I'm not like a super collector nut or anything, but I do happen to have a pair of ruby slippers.
Well, one guy I dated actually said to me "you would be so beautiful if it wasn't for those damn ruby slippers"....whaaa!!
He was out the door, never to be heard from again.
Apparently, he didn't see The Wizard about his missing brain *and* heart.
I've been married for 12 years and thankfully, I don't think this "pseudo-test" is actually a true indicator of a couple's chance at marital bliss. For instance, my husband thinks Old School is the pinnacle of fine film-making, whereas I took every Film & Literature class ever offered in high school and college. I love Streetcar Named Desire, my husband would probably tolerate it. True Romance & Pulp Fiction were my faves when I met the hubster though, and we both were able to insert random quotes in our repartee, and enjoyed the music...so we are able to find common ground. Now that said, I can honestly say that I don't think I could ever see myself married to someone who LOVED the Lord of the Rings trilogy. Not that there's anything wrong with LOTR, I'm just saying...
Well, on the one hand, I can't imagine rejecting someone over their taste in movies (or books). But, on the other hand, my experience is that when two people are truly compatible, they will have tastes in common.
So, I guess I enjoy the things we share, and don't worry over the things we don't. :-)
And, truth be told, my tastes are so unusual that I long ago gave up finding many people who share them fully. I mean I loved Kenneth Branagh's Hamlet (REALLY loved...my favorite film version of the play, which is my fav Shakespeare), and I loved Trainspotting, so go figure.
Yeah, I know.
[shakes head] Probably part of the reason I'm still single at 53 (was married briefly). I'm too "crude" for my white collar friends and too "over educated" for my blue collar friends.
Price I pay for being, at least a little, interested in everything?
Civil War by Ken Burns. No question about it.
Hers? Who the hell knows? I just act like I love them all.
Oops. I forgot my others...On the Waterfront and Judgement at Nuremberg and Amelie.
I was just kidding when I said I didn't know hers. Gone With the Wind (its hard to even act like I enjoy that one, Sense and Sensibility (very good), and Remains of the Day (which is fabulous). She has about a thousand others that make her say, "ooohhhhh, it's such a cute movie."
Those are the ones that....well, :0P
Deal-breaker movies, huh?
Little Man Tate
The Purple Rose of Cairo (Woody Allen)
Heavy Metal (original and HM 2000)
The Wall
Lord of War
Fortunately, my husband and I have very similar tastes, but if he had taken a liking to Natural Born Killers I'd have divorced his ass in a nanosecond.
I never heard of "Undeclared," but I did like "Freaks and Geeks" and "My So-Called Life." But neither of these two had the character development and ring of truth that Canada's "Edgemont" series had. Granted, the show ran less than a decade ago, and I've been an adult for over 2 decades, but I thought this little Canadian gem captured youthful Angst and struggles more sincerely than our high school shows.
Even my husband warmed to the series, and our TV tastes are wildly disparate. (He likes all the Star Treks and doesn't care for the sight of blood. I enjoy each gushing moment of "E.R." and I don't care for space aliens.)
Movies can't be the deal breaker for us. I like a lot of foreign movies, and he likes studio vehicles--so long as they're not bloody or violent.
but I did like "Freaks and Geeks" and "My So-Called Life." But neither of these two had the character development and ring of truth that Canada's "Edgemont" series had.
It's hard to have character development when you get canceled in the middle of the first season.
(Wilson Cruz made the show, not the redhead whose vehicle it was. And as for the other one, face it, "Freaks and Geeks" was a lousy title that turned off middle America.)
Coulda, woulda, shoulda.
"Freaks and Geeks" was a lousy title that turned off middle America
Anyone turned off by the title without giving the show a chance is an idiot. Unfortunately, we have lots of idiots.
As for "ring of truth," Freaks and Geeks was extremely true to the time period it portrayed. It was spot-on. That, in itself, may have been its biggest problem, though. It was a fantastic show for those who came of age in the late 70's/early 80's...but it was seen as a "high school show," so its target audience likely never gave it a try...while those who would normally be drawn to the genre were too young and couldn't relate. Those of us who did grow up in that time period, and actually watched the show, have become part of the cult following that helped get an incredible DVD box set (housed in an actual high school yearbook) made despite the studio originally having no interest whatsoever.
I would have to say one of the biggest deal breakers of all time would have to be "Steel Magnolias". This clunky, overwrought, big haired sapfest is definitely the beginning of the end if someone mentions it as their favorite movie.
And if someone told me they hated "Harold and Maude" or "Young Frankenstein", first I would recoil in horror, then slowly back my way towards the nearest exit......
Harold and Maude is a dark comedy about a socially inept young man who falls in love with a CONSIDERABLY older woman/free spirit. Stars Bud Cort and Ruth Gordon and directed by Hal Ashby with a musical score by Cat Stevens. Well worth a trip to the video store.
And Young Frankenstein is just amazing. An ensemble piece consisting of comedic actors at the top of their game. Directed by Mel Brooks and starring Gene Wilder, Peter Boyle, Terri Garr, Madeleine Kahn, Marty Feldman, Cloris Leachman and Gene Hackman. One of Brooks finest films... :)
Rent them both darnit, I don't think you'll regret it... :)
Yay! My work here is done... :)
Movies in general have been huge deal breakers for me since I can remember... if someone laughs at something stupid, especially loudly, that's the end of that romance... but honestly, the TV late show host is the easiest for me - Dave or Leno? If it's not Dave, there is not point in furthering the relationship, we just won't get each other...
What if they watch neither, instead opting for The Daily Show and the Colbert Report, followed by a little Adult Swim until Conan comes on....?
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